Check out who sits where.
Planning a seating chart for a wedding can be an emotional rollercoaster right and it will double over when it comes to your own wedding. You are constantly in fear of offending someone or not making someone feel as special as you would like them to feel and so on and so forth. If you are planning out a same sex wedding, the pressure to seat people right will quadruple over. Luckily for you, this isn’t something that you would have to go through with all alone. Consult your partner about this. This way, you get to seat people accordingly with both of your voices being heard. Going through this together means that you are technically getting each other’s buy ins which will avoid conflicts and disagreements further down the road. Take note of the fact that the wedding planning is your first task to take on. You have the rest of the marriage to work things out so why not use it as a warm up exercise on compromise and on working together in the first place? You might want to give your same sex wedding photographer front row seats so that he can shoot your wedding photos with ease both during the ceremony and the reception of the wedding day.
Figure out your aisle route.
It might seem like a no brainer to think about who walks down the aisle and who waits on the other end when you are considering a regular wedding setup but a same sex wedding can be a little more complicated than that and this is what you need to be prepared for. Again, it would be in your best interest to talk things out with your partner so that you can figure things out somewhere along the way. Some couples have decided to ditch the tradition altogether and make the walk down the aisle hand in hand. The thing is, anything goes and since this concept is fairly new, you can make up your own rules as you go along. Ask your professional same sex wedding photographer for any other pegs or anything he has experienced so far and perhaps you can draw some inspiration out of that especially when you are running out of creative juices when you are planning out the ceremony details of the wedding day.
Figure out who will participate.
So you already have your officiant. But take note that a wedding requires more players than just the person overseeing the ceremony. You might need people to do speeches and toasts and the like. You might need someone on the DJ booth. You might need an official coordinator who will take care of things from the background. Figure this out so that you can delegate tasks and take things off of your plate right off the bat.
Be particular with the discussion of family.
This has always been a sensitive topic to consider for most of the same sex couples out there so try to see what you can make out of it. Be candid about what the challenges are and take them on together. It will make you stronger as a couple and it will give you better insights on your wedding day.